Why I’ve Bid Farewell to Multi-Dating: A Personal Journey

Lateefah Messam-Sparks
4 min readApr 22, 2024

Ah, the days of multi-dating! The thrill of swiping through profiles, the rush of meeting new people, and the excitement of exploring different connections. I was quite a pro- I am not sure if I should be proud or embarrassed. It used to be my go-to approach to romance, but as the years have gone by, I have found myself waving goodbye to this once-beloved habit.

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1. Quality over Quantity

Back in the day, I was all about casting a wide net, hoping to catch something special in the sea of options. But as I’ve grown older, I’ve come to realise that true connections thrive on quality, not quantity. When I find someone who piques my interest and ignites that spark, I’d rather focus my energy on nurturing that potential rather than spreading myself thin across multiple dates.

2. The Busy Bee Syndrome

Life has a funny way of filling up our schedules, doesn’t it? Between work, hobbies, and social commitments, there’s only so much time in a day. Multi-dating might have seemed manageable in my younger, more carefree days, but now? Forget about it! I simply don’t have the time or mental bandwidth to juggle multiple romantic pursuits simultaneously.

3. Mindful Connection

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Lateefah Messam-Sparks

Expat building a Chess and English business in Madrid and wanting to share my life, stories and other musings with you along the way. @safsparks