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10 Ways to Sit in Discomfort When Love Leaves You Hanging

Embrace the Pause

Lateefah Messam-Sparks
4 min readMar 30, 2024

To those reading this article hoping to seeker of solace in uncertainty, welcome to the enigmatic realm of discomfort, where the echoes of unanswered messages and unspoken feelings resound. It’s a place we’ve all found ourselves in at one point or another — the waiting game of love. But fear not, for within the silence lies an opportunity to reclaim your power and embrace vulnerability with gusto.

Life teems with uncertainty, rendering us all susceptible to the sting of hurt and pain. The prospect of dating and relationships, fraught with vulnerability, often invokes fear and anxiety. This apprehension stems from the profound uncertainty inherent in these pursuits, where one relinquishes control over outcomes and the emotions of others.

Consequently, many opt to steer clear of dating altogether or unwittingly sabotage potential connections in a bid to evade discomfort. The logic behind this avoidance is understandable: circumventing distressing situations could shield us from potential anguish. Yet, this logic overlooks a fundamental truth — that pain and disappointment are inevitable facets of existence. Despite our best efforts to exert control, none of us are immune to life’s adversities. Thus, we are faced with a choice: retreat into a life of trepidation, forsaking the possibility of profound connections and shared experiences, or embrace vulnerability and uncertainty, thereby opening ourselves up to moments of joy, love, and…

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Lateefah Messam-Sparks
Lateefah Messam-Sparks

Written by Lateefah Messam-Sparks

Expat building a Chess and English business in Madrid and wanting to share my life, stories and other musings with you along the way. @safsparks

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